Today on Facebook I decided to update an application called "God wants you to know" and this is what I got:
On this day, God wants you to know...
... that there is no such thing as conditional love. Love is either unconditional or it's no love. You might like someone conditional on their personality or behavior or circumstances. But love accepts no boundaries. So never say 'I love you because', for love has no cause, love comes from God.
I've been guilty of asking a significant other to explain their love for me by asking them why they do, and yet when I have truly loved, I know there isn't a rational reason... It's like the love that you share with your family and dearest friends. Can you imagine asking your sister why she loves you? Asking your parent or grandparent or cousin? Of course not. Despite their flaws, habits, failures or even actions, your love for them remains (although you may not like them).
If this isn't the case, then it isn't love.
I've used the word love with some freedom. I've said it for many reasons (they said it first, or it seemed like the thing to say) and justified it because there were things that I loved about that person. I have loved before, in the true sense of the word. Those I truly loved, I still do despite the circumstances that separated us.
I don't think loving someone is the end all be all, and maybe this is where I can be challenged. The idea that there is one "true love" is unacceptable to me. I believe that we are meant to love throughout our loves and hopefully, we will be blessed enough to love and be loved romantically by one person for a long, long time.
In the meantime, it's likely we will love people that we are fundamentally incompatible with and we can't discount this because of our love. You have to see them for who they are, and while you can still love them, realize that to be with them will make one or both of you miserable. This goes against our instincts - if you love someone, you have to make it work... but this assumes that it can when sometimes it cannot.
*sigh*
I think that's all I wanted to say about that, but when you realize that you do love someone, and they love you, and the relationship works... hold onto it.
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Sunday, November 22, 2009
Monday, January 5, 2009
Rise and Shine for 2009
As this is the first blog of the New Year, I was hoping to come up with something insightful and thought provoking. Often times, blogs of that nature are born of hurt, agony or disappointment. I made a personal vow to leave as much of these ill feelings in 2008, and to be honest, I think I can do it.
2008 was a difficult year. There was a point when I'd lost a lot of myself. I was surrounded with negative energy, and I allowed negative thoughts to take over my days. I wasn't happy. My mother has always said that I have the ability to change my frame of mind, my outlook. I just have to make the decision to do it. Well, I started the process of purging those people and things that were not adding value to my life, and that made a tremendous difference. I then took a look at myself, and my life, and made some decisions and commitments to the things that I want.
I have faith that 2009 is going to be a special year. I mean, already PITT has earned a #1 ranking in both polls for the first time in 101 seasons and the Ravens are winning playoff games! Seriously though (even though that was pretty serious), I still feel that God has wonderful things in store for me. Professionally I have grand ideas I think are actionable... I will finally get a business going. I'm re-bonding with my cousins and my brother... To my surprise and delight, I'm going to be an aunt! My father is expressing himself and our relationship is flourishing. My mother and I are coexisting and still remain as close as ever. I'm blessed with great friends and a supportive family. I have a significant other that I think is wonderful...
We all know the sayings about life.
- Life is short
- Life is what you make it
- Life is like a box of chocolates
As easy as it is to laugh it off and push it aside to focus on the serious matters of paying bills, waking up for work and handling our obligations... life IS short. It IS what we make it, and it's true, you never know what you're going to get.
I want to live the best life that I can. I have aspirations and I want to see them take shape. I'm full of love and I want to share it. I plan to LIVE. I hope you do too.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Pain...
There are some pains that no one else can understand... pains that you alone feel.
Losing a child... losing a spouse... losing a sibling... losing a parent. Even if you've experienced a loss like this, it is very difficult to put yourself in the shoes of someone who is enduring that pain now.
Someone I care about deeply lost their mother yesterday. I cannot begin to feel that pain. I felt utter sadness and helplessness. I was there to help with logistics, to hug and hold, to listen... but I know it wasn't enough. There wasn't anything I could really do... there was no "better".
When I was alone, I got on my knees and I prayed. I asked God to provide comfort, to wrap him in his arms and help him find peace. I asked God to give him strength, and to help shoulder the burden that would be placed at home. I prayed that I would serve as a support, and that I would only say and do things that would provide comfort. I also prayed that God would allow the connection between mother and child to remain beyond life here... They were so close.
I then went back, and we prayed together. I felt like my words were shallow... but I hoped that they were received in the way I intended...
Thanksgiving is this week. It's the time when we make a concerted effort to thank God for our blessings, our loved ones... We are more aware of our joys and pains. I'll continue to pray for him and his family, and that I can be a useful support... I will also pray that God work on me to be a better friend, (grand)daughter, sister, cousin, classmate, employee, American, person...
I know he has wonderful memories with his mother that he can hold now. I know she is proud of the man she raised. I know he admired her more than anyone. I know she will always be with him. Please make sure that you let those you love know it. Time is not promised to any of us, we must do our best with the time we've been given.
I wish I had more words...
just more...
Losing a child... losing a spouse... losing a sibling... losing a parent. Even if you've experienced a loss like this, it is very difficult to put yourself in the shoes of someone who is enduring that pain now.
Someone I care about deeply lost their mother yesterday. I cannot begin to feel that pain. I felt utter sadness and helplessness. I was there to help with logistics, to hug and hold, to listen... but I know it wasn't enough. There wasn't anything I could really do... there was no "better".
When I was alone, I got on my knees and I prayed. I asked God to provide comfort, to wrap him in his arms and help him find peace. I asked God to give him strength, and to help shoulder the burden that would be placed at home. I prayed that I would serve as a support, and that I would only say and do things that would provide comfort. I also prayed that God would allow the connection between mother and child to remain beyond life here... They were so close.
I then went back, and we prayed together. I felt like my words were shallow... but I hoped that they were received in the way I intended...
Thanksgiving is this week. It's the time when we make a concerted effort to thank God for our blessings, our loved ones... We are more aware of our joys and pains. I'll continue to pray for him and his family, and that I can be a useful support... I will also pray that God work on me to be a better friend, (grand)daughter, sister, cousin, classmate, employee, American, person...
I know he has wonderful memories with his mother that he can hold now. I know she is proud of the man she raised. I know he admired her more than anyone. I know she will always be with him. Please make sure that you let those you love know it. Time is not promised to any of us, we must do our best with the time we've been given.
I wish I had more words...
just more...
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
It's almost unreal... 2008
If you were a betting man, and you saw this year coming, you would be filthy rich right now. Globally, Nationally and Personally, I didn't see most of this ish coming, and while some of it is pretty bad, some of it has been good. The year is still young though.
* Who would have bet on Barack Obama winning the democratic nomination a year or two ago? Some people may have seen this one coming, but he was still a relative newcomer, especially to those who don't follow politics that closely. I remember talking to my cousin in her kitchen during those months she and her husband graciously allowed me to crash there about Barack and Hillary. I hadn't made up my mind at that point, but I was listening to all of the talk very seriously. I watched YouTube video's on Barack and read some of his Bio. I even got to see him in person when he came to College Park to speak (He smiled at me - I have proof). I did something that I tend to shy away from when I present discussion topics - I took a firm stand.
On 12/12/07, I sent a note to all my family and friends throwing all of my support behind Barack Obama and Our Cause. Since then I have been a strong supporter and as the days count down to the election, I find myself in a very high strung state. I know I will probably cry either way, but for very different reasons. His victory would mean so much to this country and this world. His loss would be a devastating blow, and I actually fear what the country would look like under a McCain/Palin administration. Whoever the next president is will have to face some of the most difficult challenges a president has ever faced. His first term will be merciless, and yet, with Obama as our leader, I do think we would find our way out of this economic darkness, energy crisis and educational decline. I will continue to pray for this.
* Who would have bet that the Iraq War would still be going on in 2008? Ok, most of us would probably have taken this bet, afterall, we are still in the Bush administration. What may be more surprising to us is the strong stance opposing leaders have taken against the US and President Bush, especially while speaking on such a public forum as the United Nations. First Chavez calls Bush the devil in an otherwise eloquent speech, and now Iran's president (I'm not even going to try to spell his name on my own and I don't feel like googling it, I'm on a roll) is giving Bush the thumbs down sign in front of the world. Not to mention calling him a N*... just a joke for my MBA friends. But seriously...
Russia is invading Georgia, Bush thinks they've taken over Atlanta. Darfur is still in turmoil, Haiti is entirely underwater and Houston/Galveston is in shambles. They are blowing up hotels in Pakistan and breaking millions of records in smog covered Beijing. It's been amazing to watch.
*Personally, well, I'm alive, and kicking. I'm loving school even though it's working me over right now, and I love the new place. Work could have it's challenges, but at this point I'm paying the bills and negotiating better working conditions which is great. The year has had it's ups and downs, but considering the state I could be in, I'm doing darn good. It looks like I'll be blogging more which makes me happy too. One of my friends said she admired the fact that I was a "true romantic" still, and I must say I think she's right. I'm still hoping that one day the right guy will find me, appreciate/adore/cherish me, marry me, have children with me, and love me until my last breath. Stay tuned.
* Who would have bet on Barack Obama winning the democratic nomination a year or two ago? Some people may have seen this one coming, but he was still a relative newcomer, especially to those who don't follow politics that closely. I remember talking to my cousin in her kitchen during those months she and her husband graciously allowed me to crash there about Barack and Hillary. I hadn't made up my mind at that point, but I was listening to all of the talk very seriously. I watched YouTube video's on Barack and read some of his Bio. I even got to see him in person when he came to College Park to speak (He smiled at me - I have proof). I did something that I tend to shy away from when I present discussion topics - I took a firm stand.
On 12/12/07, I sent a note to all my family and friends throwing all of my support behind Barack Obama and Our Cause. Since then I have been a strong supporter and as the days count down to the election, I find myself in a very high strung state. I know I will probably cry either way, but for very different reasons. His victory would mean so much to this country and this world. His loss would be a devastating blow, and I actually fear what the country would look like under a McCain/Palin administration. Whoever the next president is will have to face some of the most difficult challenges a president has ever faced. His first term will be merciless, and yet, with Obama as our leader, I do think we would find our way out of this economic darkness, energy crisis and educational decline. I will continue to pray for this.
* Who would have bet that the Iraq War would still be going on in 2008? Ok, most of us would probably have taken this bet, afterall, we are still in the Bush administration. What may be more surprising to us is the strong stance opposing leaders have taken against the US and President Bush, especially while speaking on such a public forum as the United Nations. First Chavez calls Bush the devil in an otherwise eloquent speech, and now Iran's president (I'm not even going to try to spell his name on my own and I don't feel like googling it, I'm on a roll) is giving Bush the thumbs down sign in front of the world. Not to mention calling him a N*... just a joke for my MBA friends. But seriously...
Russia is invading Georgia, Bush thinks they've taken over Atlanta. Darfur is still in turmoil, Haiti is entirely underwater and Houston/Galveston is in shambles. They are blowing up hotels in Pakistan and breaking millions of records in smog covered Beijing. It's been amazing to watch.
*Personally, well, I'm alive, and kicking. I'm loving school even though it's working me over right now, and I love the new place. Work could have it's challenges, but at this point I'm paying the bills and negotiating better working conditions which is great. The year has had it's ups and downs, but considering the state I could be in, I'm doing darn good. It looks like I'll be blogging more which makes me happy too. One of my friends said she admired the fact that I was a "true romantic" still, and I must say I think she's right. I'm still hoping that one day the right guy will find me, appreciate/adore/cherish me, marry me, have children with me, and love me until my last breath. Stay tuned.
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